With Valentione's Day approaching, we at Aetherflow Media wanted to feel the Valentione spirit. I reached out to the community to find couples who met in FFXIV and were willing to share their stories with us! We were overjoyed when an overwhelming amount of people offered to share their love stories! Love is a wonderful thing to share between two people and while I didn’t meet my husband in FFXIV, we use FFXIV as a way to bond and create memories together. What we love most about FFXIV is that there are vast opportunities to create happy memories with the ones we hold dear! Hopefully you all enjoy these lovely couples and their stories.
A'onisya Dehf & Kurt Fahrenheit aka “Boyfriend Kurt”
How we met: A few years back my two really close friends started playing FFXIV, so when we hung out that's all they would talk about. I'm not really an MMO person, but between that and them playing the OSTs constantly, I finally decided to give it a try! One of the guys that hung out in their FFXIV Discord server was named Kurt. Our FCs – mine being Ataraxia and his Primo – were basically sister FCs, so he was in our chat all the time.
Our story: A few months after I started playing, Kurt reached out to me for an art commission of his Warrior of Light. Don't get the wrong idea reading this – he didn't commission me just to get close to me (So many guys do! It's ridiculous! DON'T DO THAT!). He was genuine and I enjoyed drawing his character a ton, and we ended up enjoying talking together so much that we kept DMing and texting. I remember the night I realized I liked him; we were up until 3 AM texting each other!
Even from the get-go we would talk about pretty much anything, even just your boring day-to-day stuff. When we decided to hang out over private voice chat together and watch a movie or something, I asked, "Like a date?" and Kurt immediately started stammering- the poor guy! But it was what we both were thinking. When we finally confessed to our FFXIV friends that we were dating, you could hear everyone rolling their eyes as they said, "Uh, duh! We've known for weeks." And now, this March, we'll have been dating for three years! Long distance isn't easy, but we make it work and it's always worth it when you dearly love the other person."
Astrud & Luthora
How we met: Hi there! My name is Luthora, and I met Astrud outside her and a mutual friend’s free company house.
Our story: As a Lalafell, I used to randomly sit on her Au Ra’s lap if she was outside sitting on the ground. She was quite shy at first, which was fine, but that didn’t stop me from trying to interact with her!
I took a brief break from the game due to work, and upon my return I left my scattered FC and joined the one that Astrud and some of my other friends were in. It was then that we started spending more time together as I helped her level her crafter. She was a bit distant at first, but soon she became comfortable enough with my friends and I that she started frequenting our dungeon runs.
Some time later, she asked if it was alright if our characters would get married in-game. Unfortunately, I had to decline at first since my character was already married to a good friend of mine. At the time I wasn’t yet looking for a partner, but my sister encouraged me to act before it was too late.
I eventually decided, “Why not? It could be fun!” I crafted Astrud a ring and some flowers then had her meet with me in-game. I kneeled and traded the ring and flowers to her as I asked for her hand in marriage. There was a long pause, but after a good ten minutes of shock- she said yes! We still venture together in-game whenever possible, and video chat on Discord almost daily. Being a French speaker, I sang her the song “La Vie en Rose,” and it’s become something special between the two of us. We may live across the world from one another, but it doesn’t stop our love. Without Final Fantasy XIV we would’ve never met, nor lasted this long together. We’ve recently celebrated our two year anniversary and plan to meet in person for the first time in July! If all goes well, we will be working on a more permanent solution of “til mog do us part!”
Daggoth Emberhowl & Mira Emberhowl
How we met: Dagg and I followed each other mutually on Tumblr via the FFXIV fandom for quite some time before he transferred from Excalibur to Balmung in 2013. I met him once on the server and we remained good acquaintances for a few months as I jumped between a couple of free companies looking for the right fit for me. Eventually, I was invited to the FC that Daggoth ran, by a mutual friend.
Our story: Dagg and I made for fast friends. I adored him because he was infinitely funny and could make me laugh harder than anyone else could - which was, for me, important at that time in my life as I was struggling in school and dealing with a lot of family issues. For a few months we tried to ignore that we liked each other until one day we were running a dungeon in which he tried so hard to make me laugh the whole time - to the point I had trouble healing through it. I realized then I had feelings for him, which I kept quiet for a bit until that summer. On July 4th, I got a little too bold and asked him if he had feelings for me - to which he answered yes. From there we started dating long-distance; every month after college started he would visit me, from September to November.
In December of 2014 my living, schooling, and family situation became dire. I could no longer afford to go to school as all funds had dried up, and I knew I was not going to be welcomed back home with open arms for my failure. In a quick and brave decision I decided to pack up my belongings; Dagg had come to fetch me so I could try and start a new life with him. Moving six hours away from my hometown was hard, but we have been together and happy ever since. We've come a long way, from sharing a single bedroom in 2014 to owning our own house and having a little family with our dog and reptiles now. And, of course, we've never stopped playing FFXIV - we may have slowed down from blazing through content like we used to, though!
Hurious Bastille & Elsee A'leun
How we met: Yes, we didn't meet through XIV...but we reunited through XIV!
Our story: Hurious and I met each other when we were young, about 12~13 years old, through Maplestory and being each other's first partner ever! But, being kids, of course we broke up over stupid silly things LOL. We kept in contact for awhile, but as we met different people we drifted apart and eventually stopped contacting each other. After a few years, I got in contact with Hurious again, probably around the time of Stormblood’s release. We were surprised to find that we were both playing the same game and from there on we made a lot of memories through XIV.
Last year we decided to try and give being a couple a shot since we're now adults. It's been a whole year and I'm thankful to XIV for helping me reunite with Hurious.
Lady Arkana & R'agnar Tia
Our story: I met my fiancé on Balmung (lol) in February 2018; it just so happened that we were both in the UK playing on a US server and about 90 miles from each other. He confessed feelings after 3 days (bit quick!) and he took the train to visit me for my birthday a few weeks later in March. The rest, as they say, is history! We moved in together with my parents in July 2018, got engaged, and now we have our own home,some cats, and are getting married this coming June.
Lily Firesparks & Behique Taino
How we met: Behique was trying out as a BLM to join my static.
Our story: Funnily enough, at the time I didnt think Behique was good enough to join the static lol. But my other static members liked him and he joined the group in May of 2016, and by Christmas we became very good friends. We hung out after raid and developed our friendship that way. We started dating in January and from there things started to accelerate quite quickly. I visited Behique in May of 2017 and made plans to leave on July 1, but I just ended up never leaving as we enjoyed our time together so much and it seemed right for us to be together. We got married on December 30, 2017 and just celebrated our 2nd anniversary.
Mikumo Braveheart & Lexie Rose
Balmung / Hyperion
Our story: About 4-5 ish years ago (around a month before HW launched), I started to watch a streamer named Pookajutsu on Twitch. Lexi was a moderator for said streamer and I was just a regular viewer. I would hang out in the Twitch chat on a daily basis while she would be in voice chat on stream running FFXIV dailies. One year, during the New Year stream, she came out as trans to the stream by mistake. I didn’t fully understand what it was back then but I went along with it. Then fast forward a couple years to when I came out as trans too (January 2019), she was one of the 1st people to DM me and congratulate me.
After that, we talked on an intermittent basis as Pook was stuck in the hospital and the daily stream was on standby. Fast forward again to November 11th 2019, I was feeling super down that night and she DM'd me to ask if everything was alright. That night we went to sleep way past our bedtime. I went to sleep smiling even though my day wasn't the best. The following day I decided to make an alt on her FFXIV server to surprise her and we ended up asking each other out during that day while I was speedrunning ARR.
Mnemosyne Hiraeth & Aesthrea Reas
How we met: We were in the same FC and he offered to help me clear a baby dungeon.
Our story: I was a sprout when I joined the FC. I didn’t know anything about the game and I needed help clearing a dungeon. I can’t quite remember which dungeon it was-probably Copperbell Mines knowing my luck.
I wouldn’t participate much in FC chat because I didn’t have a keyboard and I play on a PS4, but he’d always offer help or said I could ask questions. I still hadn’t made any friends in FFIV but I asked him if he could be my first official friend before I left the FC we were in. I was super nervous cuz I wasn’t sure if there was a kind of etiquette about making friends or not on FFXIV. He thought it was funny because he already assumed we were friends. I mean yeah, but not on my friends list- haha.
Time passed and we’d run into each other in random places of Eorzea due to hunts or events. Each time he’d emote me and we’d chat for a bit. It was really small things like how we were doing or what was new. After about three years of this, I made an FC and he and his group of friends had made their own. They visited my FC house for no reason other than to say “hi,” and that’s where our friendship really blossomed. We did dungeons together, chatted more and even VC’d. He brought me out of my shell and I made a lot of friends because he encouraged me. After a few months of this, he asked me out. It’s about a year and 4 months since then. It has been a bit rough because our time zones are insanely different, Aus vs USA, but it’s been a blast being together. We’ve even had our first trip together in Japan! He’s my best friend.
R'nehva Tia (Main) & Celesta Estheim
How we met: First on Aetherflow Media, then we started playing together consistently in FFXIV.
Our story: So I joined Aetherflow Media late September and immediately found it to be a wonderful family of people dedicated to the passion of FFXIV, so I felt like I fit right in. Patch 4.4 went active so I was playing Overwatch while I was waiting for the download. I had been talking to everyone in chat for a few months before then, so I dropped an invite to a game there where Celesta replied that she was interested in playing with me. After a good while of trying to figure out voice chat, we decided to use Discord. We only played a little bit but then ended up talking all night. Before I realized it, the download was live, so I literally was in call with her for several hours and didn't even feel the passage of time. That was the first thing I noticed about her; how comfortable she made me feel.
We logged into FFXIV and at the time we were on separate data centers, but it didn't take me long to make a character on Adamantoise so I could play with her there. Since I made a Seeker character on Lamia, I chose to make a Keeper and mix it up. We spent pretty much every day together in-game and in chat, talking about our interests and favorites, life stories, etc. It wasn't long til I had caught wind of her feelings for me, as she would make these posts on Instagram about really liking someone and hiding it from them-LOL. She eventually talked to me about her feelings and we decided together we would move forward knowing how we felt about each other and see what would turn out. We've been dating for 11 months now.
Royal & Valorous Paws
How we met: Valor had just moved to Balmung and he made a Tumblr post for needing friends. I just started my own FC and I was also newish to Balmung, so I knew how scary playing for the first time can be. Of all the people that said they’d play with him, I was the only one that actually met with him in-game and played with him.
Our story: After we met, things moved really quickly; everything between us just clicked. We started out as RP partners and our characters getting married soon turned into real feelings. After getting married on Aug 27, 2016, Valor officially asked me out on the 30th. We were very long distance at first (I lived in Texas, he lived in British Columbia, Canada). I jokingly said I was going to visit him for Valentine’s Day, and ended up following through. On the last day of the visit, he proposed to me to which, of course, I said yes! After visiting, we realized we didn’t want to be apart more than we needed, so I moved here in June 2017, right before Stormblood release. Of course it was bumpy after moving in because we were getting used to living with each other and all that, and in April 2018, we got married officially. Since then we’ve moved down to lower BC, have our own kids in the way of 3 pet rats and a cat, and are still playing XIV together.
Rymmrael Bhaldraelwyn & Oceanna Ashdale
How we met: He asked me if I had any beer. No, seriously.
Our story: We were both playing, not FFXIV, but a little game you might have heard of- World of Warcraft. This was back in 2006 when I had just gotten my very own first computer as a graduation present. The Burning Crusade had recently come out and I decided to attempt my first foray into the world of computer games. Fast forward a few months to that summer and I was nearing the level cap and doing quests in a zone called Blade's Edge Mountains. All was going swimmingly until I died. The end.
Not really, but I did die (a lot) trying to complete a quest that involved some really nasty elite ogres. There were other people in the general area and I probably could have asked for help but I was still pretty green at video games in general and found the thought of interacting with real, live people in an online game setting to be very intimidating. So I continued to struggle by myself. Eventually though, there was this one guy, a human paladin who was trying to get past the same ogres I was trying to deal with. I did my best to ignore him but eventually I got a PM out of the blue asking if I’ve got any beer on me. Confused, I answered him that I did not while I contemplated putting him on ignore. Before I could make up my mind (luckily) he explained that if you offered beer to the ogres, they’d get drunk and you could sneak past them. Brilliant! But neither of us had beer or knew where to get it.
Regardless, he sent me a group invite. If my life were a movie, this part would have had extremely dramatic music because I seriously debated accepting that invite and when I finally did, it ended up changing my life in ways I never would have predicted.
We managed to find some beer and finished that quest. And then another quest. And then another, until we cleared that quest hub. We were saying our goodbyes and getting ready to break group when I spontaneously asked him if he had been to the next quest hub yet. I still don’t know why I did it, I was a complete MMO solo player up until that point, but he said that he hadn’t and I offered to show him the road up to it. We ended up friending each other that day and over the following days and weeks and months we played together more and more often. As I got to know that random human paladin, I realized he was one of the funniest, sweetest, most generous people I’d ever met. (Hey, it’s a Valentine’s Day special, I get to be sappy.) We spent more and more time playing together and, bit by bit, worked out who we were in real life.
I was a college kid in Nebraska and he was an IT guy in São Paulo, Brazil. Not exactly similar backgrounds but in the end, it really didn’t matter. We shared a love of cats, video games, and stupid jokes. It was my guild master at the time (THANK YOU, ALEX!) who eventually teased me so often about my “boyfriend” that it made me realize my feelings toward him really were more than just friendly. I confessed to him (twice) while we were in a pvp battleground called Alteric Valley. Twice, because the chat spam in the battleground scrolled so fast that the big dummy missed it the first time.
That was twelve years ago. That random human paladin and I just celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary. After several international visits I moved to Brazil to be with him in January of 2014. In the fall of that year, my grandma had a health scare and I returned to the States for two months. Grandma recovered quickly, thank goodness, and I was left with several weeks to pine like only a newlywed bride away from her groom can. My husband kept himself busy with a new game he had come across- Final Fantasy XIV. He gushed to me about it whenever we Skyped and insisted I play it with him when I got back. Which I did, of course.
Even more has changed since then. We’re back living in the States. We have an apartment, two cats, and a mother-in-law who wants grandbabies and wants them NOW. We still game together almost daily; sometimes FFXIV, sometimes something else. Games come and go, but we’re still playing them. Together.
Skrully Matsuyama & Laele Nora
How we met: We met on a Discord server for another Final Fantasy XIV community project.
Our story: Well, our first interaction was actually me sliding into her DMs sometime in the summer of 2018 to schedule a meet up for some screenshots. She was on Aether and I was on Primal at the time, so I made an alt on Jenova where her character was. One thing led to another and I made myself a place in her FC, eventually playing on my alt to the point where I caught up to my main in terms of content (which I believe at the time was around 4.2).
We pretty much talked with each other whenever we could, which was frequent. Around the same time I was experiencing a bit of a lull on my main character and decided that it would be better to join her on Jenova and that was what I did. I ended up switching the two characters' places and I hadn't thought about leaving once. Time moved on from there and what started off as messages on Discord turned into phone calls and text messages. We never really did content together on the game but when it came to taking screenshots, we were always on the game doing just that! (If I was not busy running content).
Laele quickly became one of my best friends and furthermore, someone that I started having feelings for. The year went by and we went through different ups and downs. It was sometime during our time with Aetherflow Media that we ended up confessing and accepting our feelings to each other. It's been a wild ride but I couldn't be happier for the past half-year of being with her.
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